孩子不需要你给出答案，只需要一个脚手架

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I grew up in a family where the motto was be the best. And of course, I couldn't be the best at everything, academics, sports, music, art, so from a very early age, being the best was paired with you're not good enough in my brain and my body.

我在一个以「做到最好」为格言的家庭长大。我当然不可能样样都好——学业、体育、音乐、艺术，所以从很小起，在头脑和身体里，「做到最好」就和「你不够好」绑在一起。

Sara6:02

So he would feel like doing art, but he would come and ask me, oh, can I grab the markers? And that was very alarming to me, because we have, he has his yes space, his shelf with all of his supplies. And before preschool, he would just go grab whatever he wanted, whenever he wanted.

他想做手工，却跑来问我「我能拿马克笔吗」。这让我很警惕，因为家里有他的 yes space，他的架子上全是他的东西；上幼儿园之前，他想拿什么就拿什么。

Sara7:58

You asked, who is the child in front of you? And I've been asking myself that every time that I find myself questioning my values. You also said, what are your core values? So like always coming back to that, to the core values.

你问我：「你面前的孩子是谁？」每次我开始怀疑自己的价值观，我就会问自己这个问题。你还说：你的核心价值观是什么？所以总是回到那里，回到核心价值。

Sara11:04

I was convinced that setting impossible expectations and standard for myself was what got me to where I am now. It had actually worked pretty well for me.

我曾经深信，给自己设定不可能的标准，才让我走到今天。这确实对我挺有用。

Sara14:56

for me, it's all in in the process. So through the membership, we learn about how learning happens and how a child observes patterns, theorizes and extrapolates based on those patterns, and kind of applies what he's observed before to new things that he sees out in the world.

对我来说，一切都在这过程里。通过会员课，我们了解学习是怎样发生的：孩子观察模式、提出理论、基于模式外推，并把之前观察到的用来理解世界上新的事物。

Sara29:25

And I launched into expressing my frustration, but instantly realized that this is a great problem-solving opportunity. So I changed my tone kind of a halfway I started by “Sommy, I told you not to tear it off, but you did.” Then pause for a millisecond, and I went, “what can we do so the cheese doesn't go dry?”

我正要开始表达不满，但立刻意识到这是个解决问题的好机会。于是我话说一半换了语气，先说「Sommy，我告诉过你别撕开」，停了一瞬，然后问：「我们能做什么让奶酪不干掉？」

Sara35:19

I would tell her that you don't know yet, what is actually most important a year ago, I thought what's most important is reading, writing and arithmetic. Now I truly believe that the most important skills that Som can learn are creative problem solving and metacognition.

我会告诉去年的我：你还不知道什么才是真正重要的。一年前我以为最重要的是阅读、写作和算术；现在我真的相信，Som 能学到的最重要技能是创造性解决问题和元认知。

Sara51:26

数字与实体

术语

lantern consciousness灯笼意识

Sara 借用的说法，指孩子像灯笼一样慢速而均匀地吸收信息，并连接想法。

yes space安全自由区

家里划定的安全区域，孩子可不经询问自由取用物品和活动。

learning exploration学习探索

由孩子兴趣或问题出发、成人提供支持的探索过程。

scaffolding脚手架

成人根据孩子已有认知提供刚好够用的支持，不替他完成思考。

metacognition元认知

对自己思维过程的觉察与调控，例如意识到自己怎么思考。

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